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What does Gottman mean by turning towards your partner?

Turning towards your partner means responding to their small bids for connection, like a comment from the other room or a look across the table, instead of letting the moment pass....

Gottman method concepts · 8 min read

• What is a harsh startup in a conversation?

  A harsh startup is how a hard talk opens in the first three minutes. Here's what it sounds like, and the exact words that soften it.

  Communication · 8 min read

  

• Is it a red flag if your partner never apologizes?

  If your partner never apologizes or takes responsibility, it's a real warning sign, but not always a final one. Here's how to tell a fixable pattern...

  Red flags and green flags · 8 min read

  

• Red flag or just annoying? How to tell the difference

  Leaves the toothpaste cap off or puts you down in front of friends? One test sorts ordinary pet peeves from warning signs, and it comes down to...

  Relationships · 8 min read

• Green flags in a relationship that mean your partner is emotionally safe

  A calm, concrete guide to the green flags that mean your partner is emotionally safe, including what emotional safety actually feels like day to day...

  Relationships · 9 min read

  

• How to ask for space in a relationship without hurting your partner

  An exact script for asking your partner for space, from the first sentence through what to say if they cry, push back, or say no, and how to reconnect...

  Communication · 9 min read

• How to tell your partner they hurt you without starting a fight

  You can tell your partner they hurt you without a blowup. Use one complaint sentence, pick the right moment, and know exactly what to do if they get...

  Communication · 8 min read

  

• How to ask your partner to go to couples therapy

  A practical guide to asking your partner to try couples therapy without blame, plus what to say when they think you're saying the relationship is...

  Communication · 8 min read

• How to ask for reassurance without feeling needy

  Needing reassurance doesn't make you needy. Here's how to ask for it clearly, tell a fair ask from a spiral, and what to say when your partner goes...

  Communication · 9 min read

  

• How to tell your partner you feel neglected

  A gentle, step-by-step guide to telling your partner you feel neglected, with real scripts, ways to handle defensiveness, and how to tell a busy...

  Communication · 9 min read

• How to tell your partner you're unhappy

  A step-by-step walkthrough of the whole conversation, from figuring out what you actually want to your opening line, handling defensiveness or...

  Relationships · 11 min read

  

• How do we decide whether to stay together after infidelity?

  A calm, structured way to think through the fork between repair and separation after infidelity, with the questions to answer and the Gottman-based...

  Rebuilding trust · 12 min read