Something to bring back to each other
17 short quizzes drawn from the methods couples therapists actually use. Take one on your own (free, private, no sign-up), then see what it opens up between you.
How you love
How you reach for closeness, show care and want each other.
- What’s your attachment style? Discover how you seek closeness, handle distance, and what would help you feel more secure.
- What’s your love language? Find out which expressions of care mean the most to you, and what you most need from a partner.
- What kind of love do you have? Explore the three ingredients of lasting love, and see how they show up in your relationship right now.
- Do you turn toward each other? See how you answer the small, everyday reaches for attention, and how you make your own.
- Is your desire spontaneous or responsive? Find out how wanting tends to start for you, what switches it on, and what quietly switches it off.
How you fight
What happens in you, and between you, when it gets tense.
- How do you handle conflict? Discover your natural pattern when things get difficult, and what it means for your relationship.
- Are the four horsemen in your relationship? Gottman’s research identified four communication patterns that predict relationship breakdown. See which ones show up for you.
- Do you pursue or withdraw when things get tense? Find out which step you take when tension rises, and how it fits the loop the two of you make together.
- Do you get flooded in arguments? Find out how quickly your body tips into overwhelm in a fight, and what actually helps it settle.
- How do you make up after a fight? Find out how you reach back after an argument, and why your repairs and your partner’s can pass each other by.
- Is your recurring argument solvable? Think of the argument you two keep having and find out if it can be solved, lived with, or is stuck on something deeper.
Life together
Money, stress and the ordinary week you share.
- How well do you know your partner’s world right now? Check how current your picture of their worries, hopes and everyday life is, and get questions to fill it in.
- What’s your money personality? Find out what money quietly means to you, and why the two of you keep having the same money fight.
- How do you handle stress as a couple? See how you bring a hard week home, and what that means for the way the two of you get through it together.
Where you are now
A read on the two of you, as things are today.
- How healthy is your relationship? A gentle checkup across the core dimensions of relationship wellbeing, drawn from what couples therapists actually measure.
- What kind of couple are you? Find out which of Gottman’s three stable couple types you two are, what it does well, and where it can slip.
- Have you two become roommates? Look at an ordinary week together and find out whether you are still close, drifting, or running on roommate mode.
These quizzes are reflective tools, not a clinical diagnosis or a substitute for therapy.
The next quiet evening is coming.
You need somewhere to say the true thing tonight, and someone on the other end who knows the story.
No card to start · your partner doesn’t have to be ready
